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Random thoughts on wedding planning

November 11th, 2007 Leave a comment Go to comments

Suzanne and I attended a fabulous wedding the other day, and it got me thinking back to the days we were planning and preparing for our own wedding. We also remembered all of the other weddings we attended over the years during our drive to New Jersey, and wanted to share some thoughts for those that may yet still “tie the knot.”

Here are some random thoughts, since I was thinking about weddings this weekend, thought not at all a commentary on the wedding we just attended. Actually, Suzanne was a bridesmaid (matron?), while I was only in attendance.

  • The wedding industry in general seems like a racket, designed to extract as much money as possible from you. A great suggestion I once came across was to get quotes from vendors without initially mentioning the event is a wedding. Let them try to explain latter why the price is now double or triple for the same work.
  • In lieu of party favors, make a donation to a charity in honor of your wedding guests. It is the thought that counts, so why not make a difference. The couple this weekend made a donation to the American Diabetes Association, which provides complimentary invitation cards and personalized table tent cards, scrolls or bookmarks.
  • While the special day is for the bride and groom, do think about your guests as well. We have attended weddings that had events in multiple cities, or even states in one weekend. All of the driving got to us, and we arranged to get married across the street from the hotel we recommended our guests stay, which was also the site of the reception. If you need to hold events in multiple locations, provide really good maps and directions.
  • Don’t skimp on the photographer. This is going to be the one part of the wedding (other than the rings) that you will keep long past the honeymoon. Figure out all of the costs though, including who owns the images, and what they charge for albums and prints. At $100 per 8×10 print, a photographer that charges less to photograph the event will likely be more in the end than one that will provide you with the negatives or digital images. Suzanne and I were lucky to have had a fabulous wedding photographer.
  • If you use a sound system for the wedding and rehearsal dinner, try to arrange to record the events. We have a recording of our wedding, but didn’t think to record all of the toasts at the rehearsal dinner, which is a great regret.
  • On a budget, do things yourself. Suzanne and I did our own floral arrangements with flowers from Costco, and vases and supplies from Michaels. We also did our own invitations and programs. The few thousand dollars that we probably saved let us have the reception the location we really wanted.
  • Beware the Bridezilla, my son! The jaws that bite, the claws that catch! Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun The frumious Bandersnatch!
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